tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post6067478070794633159..comments2023-10-25T08:54:31.728-04:00Comments on Amy's Awesome Nest: Disappointed & DiscouragedAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09569843147080971050noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-10344821428974774292012-02-22T19:42:18.602-05:002012-02-22T19:42:18.602-05:00I swear I posted a comment on this already, but I ...I swear I posted a comment on this already, but I am clearly losing my mind. Don't be too hard on yourself - we ALL go through these struggles. Sometimes I feel like the most horrible person in the world when i let my kids push my buttons, but OMG - angsty teen + drama queen + stressed out mom + often-not-supportive-dad = FIREWORKSGinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00684328990767140199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-36743145621505296402012-02-13T21:34:45.377-05:002012-02-13T21:34:45.377-05:00Just writing to offer sympathy, not advice. Anyon...Just writing to offer sympathy, not advice. Anyone who says they never feel that way about their child is nuts or lying. I hope things get easier, but don't beat yourself up if you can help it. Virtual hugs to you.K A B L O O E Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12995547356428809262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-11838638036891312982012-02-13T16:32:26.331-05:002012-02-13T16:32:26.331-05:00It is hard to be faced with NOT wanting to spend t...It is hard to be faced with NOT wanting to spend time with our children. MAN IT STINKS! But, you are being honest with yourself as you work through your feelings. Draw the line with Jakes...he will learn he cannot act that way when he is at your house. STAND your ground Amy! Maybe a week off will be just the trick!Jill from Killeny Glenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13639521470702814007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-85412738256963253532012-02-13T16:21:18.245-05:002012-02-13T16:21:18.245-05:00You do want your child. You don't mean that li...You do want your child. You don't mean that literally. You just had a bad visit, but remember that they're not all like that.<br /><br />Teenagers are extraordinarily tough to deal with, and he appears to be no exception to that rule. He knows what buttons to push, and he's going to push them, you're right. If you react to it, he'll keep on because he gets satisfaction in knowing he got to you. Your biggest challenge will be in not reacting when he goes for the jugular.Liz Mayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13960276167677132860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-16687289124259447222012-02-13T14:38:57.561-05:002012-02-13T14:38:57.561-05:00Do you really not want Jakes?
I think you know yo...Do you really not want Jakes?<br /><br />I think you know you're being too hard on yourself. You're emotional right now coming off such a rough weekend. You've had a lot of good weekends and moments since he moved to his dads. There are still going to be bad ones, no matter what, I think that's part parenting, part teenager, part aspergers.<br /><br />Regroup, and let it go. Like anything, there will be moments of backsliding, and moments you'll love. It doesn't mean you are a bad mother. It doesn't mean you don't love your child.<br /><br />The fact is, parenting is hard as hell. Parenting a teenager is real hell. Parenting a aspergers teenager is a mountain of hell. But those are the bad times. And I'm sure they tend to stick out much more than the good, especially now when you're feeling (undeserved) guilt over sending Jakes to live with his dad. You did that for a reason. <br /><br />It's going to take time, and then more time, and even more time. But hang in there. He's worth it. You will make it.<br /><br />Until then, hugs.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08342109839956458589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-28708714797982113822012-02-13T13:14:07.818-05:002012-02-13T13:14:07.818-05:00im sorry honey.
you know, i am going to say somet...im sorry honey.<br /><br />you know, i am going to say something that might not be popular, but here goes.<br /><br />in addition to the medical diagnosis and all of those trimmings, jakes is also dealing with his fathers genes, and influences. does this make him a bad person? NO of course not, but it does mean you will always be dealing with shades of your ex.<br /><br />and if his personality and his teachings override your personality and teachings then it is absolutely okay that you can elect not to be subjected to that again. <br /><br />i dont think i am saying this well, and im sorry. i just mean to express that moms are only half of the equation that makes our children. <br /><br />hugs to you. <br /><br />and do remember there have been good times, good visits and progress made. a few steps back does not change the overall path you two could walk together.<br /><br /><br />love you ladyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17255628836689794311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-69904978451838643462012-02-13T11:07:31.153-05:002012-02-13T11:07:31.153-05:00sorry you had such a rough weekend...on question i...sorry you had such a rough weekend...on question i would ask is why you were even discussing the visitation schedule with jakes...that is between you and the father to work out...also you draw the lines as the parent, set the boundaries...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-29475017435200361842012-02-13T10:40:08.297-05:002012-02-13T10:40:08.297-05:00we bought a group of CD's called Total Transfo...we bought a group of CD's called Total Transformation. I learned so much about parenting from listening to those tapes...I would recommend listening to what the experts have to say!momto8https://www.blogger.com/profile/13964950285763339907noreply@blogger.com