tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post852304559512671990..comments2023-10-25T08:54:31.728-04:00Comments on Amy's Awesome Nest: I'm A Flip-FlopAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09569843147080971050noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-37186749717154884532013-01-19T09:04:28.204-05:002013-01-19T09:04:28.204-05:00You are in a tough position. In the end, if you lo...You are in a tough position. In the end, if you love each other, it will all work out.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03158978490041796686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-30550340474301985182013-01-18T13:55:59.346-05:002013-01-18T13:55:59.346-05:00I wonder if the fact that you fought so hard but u...I wonder if the fact that you fought so hard but ultimately lost is what is holding you back from engaging in "the fight" this time. <br /><br />Fear of asking for what you need to then have those needs openly denied is a pretty understandable fear. It's less painful to be mad at him for INADVERTENTLY hurting your feelings than to be mad at him for having all the facts and then making painful choices/actions/lack of actions.<br /> <br />Of course you could ask and this time, this man, could give you what you are asking for, but his lack of initiative in doing so without having it spelled out for him would lead to very understandable reluctance on your part. <br /><br />I just know that your heart wants this man and this relationship so find the way to find you. You can do it. He's not Jake's dad. He's his own set of mistakes and issues, but he's not him, so even if he can't hack it and it ends up not being the relationship for you, he should get the chance to be judged without the ex husband filter.<br /><br />I hope he can be what you deserve. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17255628836689794311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-26598378987633931382013-01-18T12:49:51.625-05:002013-01-18T12:49:51.625-05:00You need to talk, a lot. I think separating the li...You need to talk, a lot. I think separating the living quarters, as in you have your own place, and he has his own place would be a really good idea (I know that isn't possible right now). Try having a relationship that doesn't come with all the added pressure of bills, parenting, etc. at the same time.<br /><br />It might seem harsh, but its time for AZ to sink or swim. He's a grown man. Either he steps up and takes on his OWN responsibilities or he doesn't. They aren't your responsibilities.<br /><br />I know that might seem harsh, but if he can't accept responsibility for his life now, he never will. You deserve someone who can follow your example and take care of a child, a house, hold a job, and be an great friend.<br /><br />You deserve that, I think you have a right to demand it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04550949978651312496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2303801834943525678.post-78419033167776884472013-01-18T11:43:28.295-05:002013-01-18T11:43:28.295-05:00i am glad that you are talking more...that is heal...i am glad that you are talking more...that is healthy and will lead to good things...either way it works out you know...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.com