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Let's Talk Chocolate.......

I am a Chocoholic.  If Chocolate was made an illegal substance, I'd have to be the first in detox.  I am addicted.  I love milk, dark and just plain chocolate.  I don't want it polluted with nuts or fruits mixed in.  If I want nuts or fruits, I want to dip it in or cover it myself.

I come by my addiction through genetics.  My mother was a chocoholic and her mother before her.  Mom would have a small bowl of rice krispy's and instead of white milk, she'd mix a little chocolate milk in.  Me too.  Every morning, instead of coffee, I have a little chocolate milk to get me started.

When I started my New Adventure with the Scentsy Family, they were starting their ramp up for the release of a new product line.  Chocolate Fondue!  My mouth started watering at the first mention. ME?  Able to sell CHOCOLATE?  HEAVEN!

Velata  (VE-la-ta) is the new product line and its a warmer similar to the Scentsy warmers, but you can warm the chocolate into a fondue dipping sauce and dip lots of yummy things into it.



My Velata Website

There are so many fun warmer styles and colors.  The warmers are very similar to the Scentsy wax wamers, in that they use a light bulb to create the heat to melt the stuff.  The Velata warming dish is silicone, dish washer and microwave safe.  The set up and clean up is SO easy!  I plugged in the warmer, turned on the light and while I melted the chocolate package in the microwave, the silicone dish warmed up. 

When I was done tasting, I scrapped the remaining chocolate (yes, I had leftover chocolate!) into a container and put the warming dish in the dishwasher.  Clean up couldn't be easier!  The packages are 6 oz each and are designed to feed 5-6 people. Since it was just AZ and I dipping that time, we had some leftovers.  When I took Velata into work one Friday afternoon, 5 of us went through 2 packages!  Yes, we're pigs!  It was just SO darn GOOD!

There are four flavors of Belgian chocolate: Milk, Dark, White and Caramel Milk.  Let me tell you, I love all the flavors!  The dark is so rich and is perfectly paired with pretzels (salty) and with pineapple (sweet and tart).  The milk is just so creamy and coats the dippers (rice krispy treats and marshmallows) perfectly.  While I am not a fan of white chocolate, the Velata brand was pretty darn good too.   I dipped apples in it and thoroughly enjoyed it. 

My hands down favorite flavor is the Caramel Chocolate.  To quote one of the other consultants "I could live in a package of Caramel Milk!"  I couldn't agree more!  This is so creamy and flavorful!  You can taste the chocolate and caramel, neither overpowers the other.  I have dipped lots of things in this one and can't find ANYTHING that it doesn't compliment.

I have a personal website you where you can place an order and have it send directly TO YOU! 

Amy's Velata Heaven

If you have any questions or want more information, please don't hesitate to contact me!  I have lots of ideas for party themes as well as a LONG list of dippers and wines to match up with the chocolates.  Place an  order and I'll share those with you too!

When I Feel Like a Failure

I had a lovely weekend.  Jakes was camping with my parents and they had a wonderful time.  They reported that Jakes was very well behaved, helpful and without a smart mouth.  I'm so proud that he was such a help and had a wonderful time with them.  He can't wait to go camping with them again.  Since Jakes has moved, he hasn't had much alone time with them.

ESM reported that she can see a difference in Jakes without his ADHD medication.  He's not unbearable but he had, I guess "ticks" is the best way to describe it.  He would make noises and couldn't seem to control them.  She said they weren't bad, or even too annoying but she also noticed that he didn't do them when he was on the medication.  She was very proud of how Jakes behaved and helped g-pop with setting up and taking down.  I'm very proud of Jakes too.

OH.  His father took him off the meds but didn't tell me.  Jakes told me that he wasn't on them anymore.  And yet, I have a new receipt for a refill of the medication from his father and no explanation from him as to whether Jakes is on or off the medication.  Wonderful parenting.  But that's another story.

Before my concert on Saturday evening, Kathy and I met friends from Maryland for dinner and they attended the concert.   They loved it! and I loved having them there to share my fun.

On the ride to dinner, I chatted with Kathy about needing space and wanting to live my life without having to be saddled with babysitting duties when my parents go out.  I was not THIS blunt with her and she understood. Or so I think.  She asked me to take care of her animals while she goes to FL with my parents at the end of the month.  sigh.  I think I need to move.

In the space of an hour and half, Jakes and I managed to have 4 major blow ups about various things.  Mostly me getting upset with him for his disrespectful way of treating me and other adults.  By the time I had to leave for concert #2, I was feeling so low and like such a failure, it wasn't fun to sing at all.  I just couldn't pull myself up enough to enjoy the concert.  Oh, I was on stage and sang, but there was no enthusiasm from me. booooooo

That lasted for the rest of the evening.  AZ wasn't having a very good day either.  He wasn't feeling well and there were outside forces that annoyed him.  He said he did have a good visit with his son while they were taking JR back home.  I'm glad JR cared enough to talk with his dad and get his mind off his troubles, even for a little while.  JR seems to be a good kid.  I'm looking forward to getting to know him better.

Later Sunday night, Jakes father is making threats to take me to court again.  That's all they are, threats.  And if he actually DOES take me to court, I'm not worried.  I just wish he would respect the restraints and not make those threats.  I will definitely bring that up in court if we go. SO, things in my house on Sunday night were not very pleasant.  I went to bed early.

What was a wonderful start to a weekend, ended an a pretty sour note.  Next weekend will be better.

My Weekend

Here is a little something of what I did this weekend.....  I am in the front row, second from the left.......

Friday Fragments

Go me! I blogged three times this week!  And ya'll are still round to comment!  Love ya's!

My Spring Concert is this weekend.  We are singing lots of lovely songs again.  I can't think of ONE song that I haven't warmed up to.  When we first started practicing some of them, I didn't enjoy them. But they've grown on me.  Its going to be a lovely concert and I love being with these wonderfully talented people.  Each week I am simply amazed by the talent that is in the group.

Jakes is going camping with the g-parents this weekend.  I will be picking him up and dropping him off to them.  It was their idea to take him camping and I love the idea of Jakes getting time to spend with just them.  He hasn't had a lot of that since he moved.  And they will be camping local so if I wanted to pop in and get Jakes-hugs, I can still do that.

Work is busy as usual.  Lots of boring busy work happening, but its necessary stuff to make my job easier later.

I've started a new business through Scentsy.  They have a new product line called Velata.  Its a fondue warmer and you can melt chocolate in it.  There are so many good things to dip in chocolate.  How can you go wrong?  I'll post more on this later. Just let it be known that I am in heaven!  I love chocolate!

It seems that AZ and I are getting a Pop-up camper!  He's so excited about it.  Friends of his want to get rid of it cause they don't use it anymore.  AZ is making plans of taking me and the boys camping already and we don't even have the camper and don't even know what condition its in.  I've never been camping.  AZ has been tent camping in the past, even at places that don't have facilities like showers or anything.  I don't know that I would like that kind of camping.  I like to hear the flush..........

This weekend weather is shaping up pretty nicely!  Warmer temps and sunshine!  With a chance of storms mixed in.  AZ is happy with the warmer temps, he's still sensitive to the cooler temps.  I'm still calling him Popsicle.  ;)  Hopefully the weather will be good to get some fishing in........

Hope everyone has a fabulous weekend!  I know mine will be a great one!

Family..... is there such a thing as TOO close?

Let put this out here right at the beginning.  I LOVE, LOVE my family.  Even the ones that get on my nerves, I still love them.

Ok. For the past 3 years I have lived in the same house as my parents.  Not WITH my parents cause we each have our own apartments.  There were adjustments to be made for me to go back to living so close to my parents and to living in an apartment.  But after the divorce, I needed my parents and the unconditional love and support they gave to me and Jakes.  And the VIEW is Fabulous!

From my Front Porch

Not only do I have my parents right there but our neighbor Kathy is part of the family.  This makes for three parent-figures for me and three grandparents for Jakes.  Lots of love.  Lots of hovering.  From both sides, me and them.  Over the weekend, Kathy got up later then usual and we all noticed.  We didn't go in and check on her as she did materialize but we were prepared to check on her if necessary.  If Dad isn't feeling well, everyone knows and does what we can to help him out, if he'll let us.  Its a great neighborhood with people who care about each other. 

Dad, ESM and Kathy go out for lunch and dinners or they eat together at home.  When Dad and ESM go away, I would step in to take Kathy out for meals.  I didn't usually have much else going on in my life and it was a treat to not have to cook for a few days.

Now, I have AZ back in my life.   

AZ and I at his Junior Prom
We were SO young and in love!

And my life is going in a different direction.   I don't want to spend as much time with my parents.  I don't want to be tied to the Compound, taking care of Kathy when Dad and ESM go camping.  I want to be able to go away on weekends with AZ and our boys.  Its hard enough to schedule our weekends around the boys and their schedules, I don't want to feel guilty for not taking Kathy into the equation.

I have to find a way to let my family, who I love more than just about anything, that I need my space.  That I need that space to see where my life as it is now, will take me.  I KNOW they only want whats best for me.  I know that they are willing to welcome AZ and his son into the mix.  Its ME wanting the space and the ability to live my life without feeling like I have to check in with my family.

I don't want to feel guilty for moving on with my life after everything they have done for me over the years.  The love, the shoulders to cry on, listening to me complain about JF and Jakes' problems, the fun stuff, the bad stuff.

I don't want to leave them completely, I'd NEVER leave my family.  Not after all they have done for me over the years. 

So yes, I think there is such a thing as too close.  But there has to be a balance.  And that balance just has to be found.

Cha-cha-Changes

Ok, does anyone who used Blogger like the new publishing layout?  Right now, I do NOT!  Its going to take some getting used to, I guess.  I also do not like the Timeline on Facebook.

Otin wrote a post titled Definitions of Blogging Terms, where he describes phrases used by all bloggers.  And recently, I have used each and every one to excuse my lack of blogging.  One of my favorite Aunts commented on a Facebook post that she missed my blog.             

hmmmmmmm 

Maybe I need to make more of an effort to keep my peeps in the loop.  Aunt L, this one's for you!  Let's play catch up!

Ok.  Ya'll know that AZ moved back to Jersey and in with me.  What started out as roommates has progressed into a bit more.  We're still figuring things out as we go along.  There's a lot going on with that subject.  I'm very hopeful that we can make things work out and form a strong loving partnership.

When you get to my (and AZ's age) its hard to find someone that doesn't come with suitcases (baggage just seems negative and the past is not all bad) from their past.  I have an ex and a kid.  AZ has an ex and a kid (JR).  Our kids are both teenage boys, JR is 15 and Jakes is 13.  But they are in completely different places in their lives.  JR has had a rough life so far and has seen his share of legal trouble.  JR has friends and a girlfriend that he wants to spend time with.  Jakes doesn't have many friends he wants to hang out with and while he has a crush on a girl, doesn't have a girlfriend.  JR wants to be out of the house and hanging with his friends.  Jakes doesn't mind hanging at the house with me.

JR's mom is having some problems of her own and it seems that JR will be coming to live with AZ and I. Soon.  Like this week.  YIKES!

As I said before, AZ and I were going to be roommates while he found his feet back in Jersey. When he moved here, he was talking about getting a job (is still looking!) and moving in with a friend of his. There was no talk about him staying with me for longer than a couple of months and NO talk about JR coming to live with him.  But circumstances change and you have to go with the flow.  In all, it seems that AZ chose the right time to come back to Jersey for his Son.

I am in complete support of JR coming to live with us.  He needs a parent in his life and his mom is not able to be there at this time.  I know that this time together will be good for both AZ and JR.

AZ and I are in talks with each other about how to make room for both boys in a small two bedroom home.  Talking about how to get JR to and from school in the next town over.  Possibly moving to that town and leaving my lovely river view.  Talking about rules for the boys and other things that must be done. Lots of talking about how to make this work.

That's the motto, We'll figure out how to make this work.  I have faith that we can do this.  We can make all this work.