Thursday, October 21, 2010

The Truth and Nothing But the Truth - Day 4

For the next 30 days, I am going to write the complete and utter truth about myself. Here is day 4

If you missed previous days, go here.

Day 04 → Something you have to forgive someone for.

I know I seem to have a common theme in these 30 days of truth, mainly about my divorce but that was a HUGE change in my life. It’s like I was born again through it. And maybe I was.

I know that I have to forgive my ex for all the hurt he caused me at the end of the marriage and through the divorce. There are days that I actually think I have. Then something comes up that triggers the old hurt and anger. Thankfully, it doesn’t take as long to get over it as it used to. I think the biggest step I have taken in forgiving him is when I unblocked him on FaceBook. I haven’t tried to “friend” him but since we have mutual friends and if either of us posts to that friend, we would be able to see what was posted. I know I am not ready to “friend” him. Not by a long shot.

I am proud of how far I have come in my attitude toward him. I can refer to him by his name and not necessarily my “pet” name for him. Neicy actually remembers who I am talking about when I use his name.

It’s been 4 years for me to get this far so I think in another 5-6 I will be able to say that I completely forgive him. Unless he starts acting like an asshole again.


  1. smiles. you have come far with that and there will be days it is hard when memories stir but steps...keep taking steps....

  2. Facebook is the Devil. Don't friend him. That will cause pressure to post things you want him to see... You will find yourself posting things that aren't true because you want him to think you are doing great! Don't! Another been there and do that point of view...

  3. That's great that you're beginning to move beyond it without harboring all that rage!

  4. You don't have to be friends to forgive him. You just have to let go of the anger. I know that's not easy, but you suffer from it way more than he does.

  5. This is HUGE! Wow, is all I can say. But have to agree with Jen, you don't have to like him to forgive him and least of all you don't need to forget.


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