Friday, October 30, 2009
Thursday, October 29, 2009
So my tribute to Halloween will be Son's costumes through the years.
He was Elmo one year
Monday, October 26, 2009
So, we showed up in the parking lot and they looked at Son and said "You look like you'd be a good convict! How would you like to go to jail?" Son of course was THRILLED. So they proceeded to stripe him up.
Here is Son in position for the parade
It was a cold night but there were loads of people who were lining the parade route, partying and enjoying the parade and themselves.
Today was a typical Manic Monday. I had to run to work this morning but had the afternoon off for Son's hearing test and post-op check-up. He passed the hearing test with flying colors! YAY! Now we just have to wait for the tubes to do their thing and fall out when they are done.
How was your weekend?
Sunday, October 25, 2009
So. I made a quick trip to the potty and went back to bed. I didn't read as much as I had hoped but I did enjoy what I did read. AND I plan to do it again in April! I also plan to do better book reviews later this week.
Thank you for all the cheering and support! HUGS!
Now, I have to fix lunch for Son and then rest my eyes.
Saturday, October 24, 2009
I just finished reading The Sound of Sleighbells by Cindy Woodsmall and Loved IT! I didn't want to put it down, even when I drifted off to sleep while reading it. Luckily, Son woke me up to remind me that I needed to snore quieter and wasn't I supposed to be spending the day reading? HA!
I love reading about the Amish and I admire their ability to live their WAY. I know that I could not live without my laptop!
This book is about a woman who looses love and with the help of her family, finds her way back. Which is not unlike my life a while back. I was newly divorced and severely mentally beaten by my ex. I sold my house and moved into the apartment below my parents. With their love as well as others in the complex, I have been learning to love myself. With love of self, comes love of life and eventually (I hope!) the ability to share that love with a partner.
Thank you to all the cheerleaders who have stopped by the Nest! I love seeing the messages left to encourage me onward!
While I got off to a slow start (life intruded! Computer issues, laundry and friends stopping over!) I have just finished The Shack. What an awesome book!
This book is about a man who looses his way from God and over the course of a weekend with God is reminded how to love him again.
This book evoked many profound thoughts about my relationship with God but that is for another post. For now, I am moving onto another book on my list!
Friday, October 23, 2009
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Lots of this traffic:
And this traffic:
And we have Dead End Traffic:
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Wednesday, October 21, 2009
I am a 37 yr old single white female who lives in the middle of almost no-where. In my match settings I asked for 35 to 43 yr old while males who lives within 30 miles of me. Now, 30 miles can cover a lot of territory, even another STATE! Thirty miles would be about 45 minutes or so from where I live. Not too bad of a drive and it only takes about 30 minutes to get to civilization.
I thought I was pretty generous on the age range, I don’t really want someone who might be old enough to be my father or who is just graduating from high school.
Well, eHarm seems to think that they have leeway in my matching. Oh, she only marked her age range as a 7 so we can match her with a 52 yr old who lives 2 HOURS from her town.
Of course when I saw what eHarm was going to send me, I stopped being so picky and tried to start conversations with the 45 yr old who only lived a hour from me. Of course, he closed the match because he didn’t want to travel so far into East BubbleNuck. I don’t blame him.
Then, there was the guy who was my age and lived about 30 minutes from me. Cool. AND he responded to my inquiries. Until I allowed him to see my picture. Then all of a sudden he was “pursuing a relationship”. Nice. Timing.
I don’t think I am horrible to look at, I mean I’m not a zombie or anything. Unless I have been up all night fixing my computer that has a virus and spyware. But I would never post a picture of THAT. Ewww. I know I'm not Mrs. America or anything but I have all my teeth and an awesome personality!
So this experience from the past 2 months has not been a real ego booster and it makes me want to re-think my choice to get back in the dating scene. I still have another month on my subscription with eHarm but I am not very optimistic that anything will come through. I hope I am proven wrong!
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Monday, October 19, 2009
Anywho, back to books. I love to read and I am very fortunate to have a friend and neighbor who also loves books! In the past year, Denise has shared ever so many books and I am SO grateful. Without Denise, I would not have read Abraham's Daughter series, the Twilight books or The Shack. I am not finished with The Shack yet. I'm going to read another chapter or two when I am done here.
So, Denise at Sunflowers, Chocolate and Little Boys (yes, same friend and neighbor) was having a book give away! COOL! Enter me! PLEASE! Denise was giving away The Sound of Sleigh Bells by Cindy Woodsmall. I LOVE the Amish books! Now I just have to find time to stop over and pick it up. And I need to do that before Saturday. Why you ask?
I have signed up for Dewey's Read-A-Thon.
Now, I don't know how much time I will actually be reading, I already have things scheduled for the evening with Son that I cannot change at this time. Of course, since Audio Books count, maybe I will load up my MP3 player and listen while I walk beside his parade float. Great Idea!
I also have to work on my reading list. I have several eBooks that I want to read, some classics as well as some books that I can read to Son. Maybe I can get him to participate with me as well! Later this week I share my reading list with you.
Please, check back often on Saturday as I plan on posting as I finish books or at least every few hours or so, just to take a break from reading a book!
Sunday, October 18, 2009
These are the steps leading to the beach (we have beach at low tide). We have had white caps out there all weekend.
Here is a shot of the fury of the River. This is a picture taken by my step mother on a different day. Its a bit blurry because the window she was taking it through was covered in River Spray.
We don't worry about the river over-flowing its banks. My parents have lived here for 7 years and have only been flooded once and that was from the meadow behind our house. Seen here:
Again, this is an old picture, we didn't have any flooding this weekend from the storms.
I hope your weekend has been a safe, warm and dry one! I still have time to color my hair and get a nap in before Son comes home! Yay me!
Saturday, October 17, 2009
1.As a dedication for those who love blogging and love to encourage friendships through blogging.
2.To seek the reasons why we all love blogging.
3.Put the award in one post as soon as you receive it.
4.Don't forget to mention the person who gives you the award.
5.Answer the awards question by writing the reason why you love blogging.
6.Tag and distribute the award to as many people as you like.
7.Don't forget to notify the award receivers and put their links in your post.
Friday, October 16, 2009
Each person is different. An individual might have all or only some of the described behaviors to have a diagnosis of AS.
- Marked impairment in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviors such as: eye gaze, facial expression, body posture, and gestures to regulate social interaction.
- Extreme difficulty in developing age-appropriate peer relationships. (e.g. AS children may be more comfortable with adults than with other children).
Son doesn't have a "best" friend but he does play with kids in the neighborhood pretty well. They are younger than him. If you get him with his classmates, things don't go as well. But the school is working on this with him.
- Inflexible adherence to routines and perseveration.
Son is getting better with changing the schedule around but it used to be that I could not change ANYTHING without him loosing it. He just could not change things in his mind and feel secure with things.
- Fascination with maps, globes, and routes.
When he was 2, he would give me directions to the babysitters every morning. I thought it was cute that he could do that. He also loved the map of the US that was in his room. He spent hours staring at it and memorizing it.
- Superior rote memory.
He can recite almost anything back to you. AND he can remember details of almost every outing we have been on. SCARY!
- Preoccupation with a particular subject to the exclusion of all others. Amasses many related facts.
AS kids seem to have a particular fascination with trains, cars and making lines of things. Son has been in love with trains since he was tiny and still is. He loves Thomas but is getting away from that a bit. He loves the big trains and can give you details about how they are different from each other and how to drive them. He also has every Matchbox and Hot Wheels car ever made and loves to line them up all over the house.
- Difficulty judging personal space, motor clumsiness.
Son was always too close to people and definitely will not be a ballerina. :) He is getting better about judging the personal space and no longer has a special gym class to help with his clumsiness.
- Sensitivity to the environment, loud noises, clothing and food textures, and odors.
This is a big one. Son doesn't mind the fire engine sirens but when the nuclear siren would do their test, he would FREAK. I used to think it was because of his ear problems but apparently its from AS. He will not wear jeans, prefers elastic pants or sweats. His food cannot be too hot or too cold and NO GREEN! And it cannot be to hard to chew. This is the most frustrating for me because I want him to eat well and because I LOVE food and know what wonderful things he is missing out on!
- Speech and language skills impaired in the area of semantics, pragmatics, and prosody (volume, intonation, inflection, and rhythm).
Son is LOUD. The teachers at school think its because of his ear problems but I disagree. When his ears are normal, he is still loud. He also tends to talk fairly monotone, this has gotten better and he is learning to put feeling into his stories.
- Difficulty understanding others' feelings.
Son had NO empathy for anyone or anything. One of the goals for his therapy was to teach him empathy. Now, there are times that I think he is too sensitive. But at least he is considering other peoples feelings.
- Pedantic, formal style of speaking; often called "little professor," verbose.
Again, he uses BIG words (I thought it was because I didn't talk "baby" to him) and enjoys lecturing people on his favorite subjects.
- Extreme difficulty reading and/or interpreting social cues.
Son still has difficulty with this. There are times when he will burst out laughing when it is TOTALLY inappropriate. This will take time for him to learn and with all the different situations that could happen, may never be perfect.
- Socially and emotionally inappropriate responses.
Son has trouble with this. He still has meltdowns over little things. But he is working on this as well.
- Literal interpretation of language. difficulty comprehending implied meanings.
Son still has trouble recognizing sarcasm. And I like sarcasm so he gets a workout with me!
- Extensive vocabulary. Reading commences at an early age (hyperlexia).
Son didn't start reading at an early age but he does have a good vocabulary, thanks to Mom!
- Stereotyped or repetitive motor mannerisms.
Thankfully, he doesn't have any of theses that I have recognized.
- Difficulty with "give and take" of conversation.
He definitely monopolizes the conversations and interrupts with his own thoughts. We are working on this.
So the reason for this lesson on AS and my son? Next week I have a meeting with the child study team to determine his services for the remainder of the school year. I was reviewing the current plan as well as the website http://www.aspennj.org/index.asp for ideas of interventions that might benefit him.
Also, I wanted to brag about him. I received a WONDERFUL email yesterday from one of his teachers and wanted to share. The AS lesson was background to try and help you to realize that I am not only PROUD of my child, I am floating on a cloud because of the words from the teacher. Email:
I wanted to let you know that Jacob's behavior this year has been outstanding!!! He is polite, well mannered, and has an excellent attitude. He has been completing all work when asked. It is amazing how much he has improved since he started in 4th grade last fall!
My son may have a disability but he is willing to work on his problems to fit in and succeed! His disability doesn't stop him from doing much and when it does, we work together to find a way to work around that.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Monday, October 12, 2009
We are close to this. No, we don't glow but our cancer and austim rates are almost the highest in my state.
This is a tributary that leads to the River.
More Marsh Pictures
This was on the way back. Son was leading me home. Thanks, Son!
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Friday, October 9, 2009
Thursday, October 8, 2009
I have instructions from the hospital to attach my phone to me today while waiting for them to call with our arrival time. Its in my pocket as I type.
This will be the first surgery he has had that I am not taking "support" with me to the hospital. I have convinced myself that since we have been through this before and I am in a MUCH better place mentally, I can do this on my own. Plus the hospital has free internet so I can still keep in touch with my "support" cybernetically.
So, positive thinking: Everything will be fine for Son. Actually, he will be better because when he comes out, he will be able to hear! YAY! I will be fine because I am strong and healthy.
And I can't wait to get him home and watch movies all afternoon!
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Monday, October 5, 2009
Friday, October 2, 2009
Son had pre-admission testing for his ear surgery next week so we spent the morning at the hospital. Now, this is not your ordinary hospital that caters to all ages, this is one of the top children’s hospital in the area. Just walking through the lobby is enough to break you heart.
My son has a disability as well as ear problems that make him special. He has worked very hard with the therapists and other specialist in his life to learn to cope with his Aspergers Syndrome. It helps him that I have advocated and pushed for every intervention he has had since the 2006 diagnosis. To me, Son is special, even without the diagnosis. With the diagnosis, he is special to a lot of other people, mainly the school district and the therapists that work with him.
But when you go to the children’s hospital, you can see that Son is normal in comparison to a lot of the kids there. We were on our way out when I saw a mother walking down the hall with her son and daughter. The daughter looked to be about 5 and the son, well it was hard to tell. He was in a wheel chair, a fancy electric one that seems to recline. The mother was also pushing an IV pole with bags of stuff and an oxygen tank. She was good at driving the wheel chair and guiding the pole at the same time. My heart broke for that family.
There were other kids there with various physical disabilities, lack of hair as a result of chemo, and of course their parents there to support and encourage them.
Going to this hospital is a good reminder for me to hug my child close and to say a prayer of thanks for my blessings. When you count your blessings the next time, ask God to keep all the families with special children close to his heart.