Tuesday, September 29, 2009
So I grounded Son. No TV, video games or anything fun. I didn't ground him from soccer though. I really wanted Son to make soccer work.
But the school work kept getting worse. The fights to get it done got worse. The attitude of Son at school, worse. So there really was only one more thing to take away. Yep. Soccer.
I really did give my decision LOTS of thought. Son was enjoying the game itself, his teammates and he also was getting exercise. He seemed to make progress with being a team player and other social skills that sometimes eludes Aspergers Kids. All pluses in my book.
And at practices, I would get to visit with my best friend while her kids practiced with their team. Another plus! Other than the smacks she would give me while she tried to say that she was saving me from another bug trying to eat me alive.
Was all the pluses enough to out weigh the negative of the school work? Could I stand all the fighting with Son to get the school work done? Did I have the patience to deal with this till Thanksgiving? Could I stand the bugs and the cold that was to come?
The final straw was when Son came home from school missing more of his homework than he actually brought home, as well as a couple of F's in the folder. I'm DONE. I cannot allow my son's school career, not to mention his friendships at school, to be put in jeopardy for soccer. There just weren't enough pluses in my book.
So on Friday, I called the coach and let him know what was up so he could plan on Son not playing on Sunday. On Sunday, we took Jacob's uniform to the coach. Here is the conversation, sort of:
Me: Sorry that I am pulling Jacob but school is more important.
Coach: This must have been a hard decision.
Me: NO. School comes FIRST.
Coach: (looking shocked that something could be more important than soccer) Oh. Well, maybe if he gets things together at school, he can come back.
Me: (in my head) What makes you think he will be able to handle this next week when nothing will have changed? Its obvious to ME that Son doesn't have the ability to get make the grades at school AND do an after school activity! YET. Someday, I hope he will!
But I digress: Since when is SOCCER more important than SCHOOL in the minds of coaches? Humph. What happened to needing good grades to continue playing on the sports teams?
Either way, I don't think Coach liked me very much.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
This week, I will advocate for myself with the same zeal I use when I am fighting for Jacob's rights with the Drs and the schools.
In the meantime, I am going to crawl into bed and beg someone to bring me chicken noodle soup!
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Monday, September 21, 2009
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Today, Son had his second soccer game which they won. He was so excited and did very well. His father brought him to the game because it was his weekend with Son. He and the latest girlfriend stood by a fence farthest from the field and didn't show an interest in the game. Meanwhile, I am in the stands with the other mothers from the team, yelling and cheering our boys on. When the game was over, Son grabbed his bag from his father and I brought him home.
We are waiting for the neighbors to bring back dinner and watching the ships go by. Over all, a pretty nice weekend.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Sunday, September 13, 2009
I am back from vacation, school is back in session, and I am getting better. Its time to get my butt back on the bike or start some form of exercise. Its time to start cooking regular meals, doing homework and school work, and eating right.
Starting tomorrow, all these things will start happening. I will exercise in someway, I will make plans for regular meals in this house, and will make sure that his school work is done and signed.
This is the plan at least until the next crisis comes up that changes the schedule! Wish me luck!
Friday, September 11, 2009
Let's play the Glad Game today. This is where Pollyanna finds things to be happy about in all situations. An example from the moive is when she received a pair of crutches instead of a doll. She was glad that she didn't need the crutches.
Today I am glad that my ears are a little more unplugged than they have been the past few days.
Today I am glad that Jacob's sores are healing nicely.
Today I am glad that I have family and friends who love me. Of course, I am glad for this everyday. ;)
Today I am glad that's FRIDAY!
What are you glad of today?