Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Momma's Tibute

In January I decided that I was going to honor my mother with good memories and experiences.  I wasn't going to be sad over her passing anymore.  You can check out my tribute to my Momma here......

This Mothers Day, while pretty sucky for me thanks to Asshat, I had planned to write a tribute to the two women in my life who become my special mothers figures over the years.

First is my ESM aka Evil Step Mother aka Renie. She's been in the family for about 12 years now and to say I welcomed her with open arms would be an exaggeration.  She and Dad started dating about a year after Mom passed and I just wasn't ready for it.  I didn't fight it nor was I rude or mean to her.  I just wasn't very open.  I knew that Daddy deserved to be happy and she made him happy.  ESM understood and didn't push her way in with me.  Just accepted things they way they were and waited for me to come around.  As I saw how happy she made my dad and that she did love Jakes like her own, she grew on me.  She is a wonderful stand-in mom without replacing my momma.

My second special mom is my neighbor and landlord, Kathy.  I served her with adoption papers this mothers day.  Obviously, we started with a normal tenant/landlord relationship.  But since she was such good friends with my parents, she was included in a lot of the activities and dinners with my parents.  Kathy is another one who has grown on me over the years.  I think Kathy finally admitted that she loved me more than a neighbor was when I took her doggies in while she was in the hospital once.  Kathy has become another grandmother to Jakes and you can never have enough grandmothers.  When Kathy had surgery a couple of summers ago, all her neighbors worked to make sure she was taken care of until her kids could fly in.  We flew to AZ together last summer and it was a fun trip!  I enjoyed her company on the plane and in the airport.

I am truly blessed to have had a wonderful mother who loved me with all she was.  I am also blessed to have such wonderful mother figures in my life since my momma can't be with me.


  1. i am glad they are in your life...we never can know what the future brings...and losing a mother is hard and something we never plan for...we need people like that to fill in the gaps when things happen...hugs

    and : 0 on your comment...smiles.

  2. My mom might make me nuts, but there isn't anyone else who could ever be mom.

    Hugs :)

  3. You know, last year I wrote that 6 part series about my mom. That really helped me to let go of my demons, and start the grieving/healing process.

    A year of healing later and I am in much better place. My mothers day wasn't filled with shadow funk and while I miss her, I am handling it all so much better.

    I too have some solid moms in my life, they aren't her, but they sure do hug good.

  4. You most definitely have been blessed, friend.


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