Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Honesty About Jakes

I haven't seen Jakes since the middle of October.  And I don't miss him.  We had a huge fight.  I mean huge, with police called and threats of charges from both sides.  

Huge fight.  Nasty fight.  I haven't seen or heard from him since.  And I don't miss him.

To be honest, and that's what I'm supposed to be doing here, I have been dreading seeing him for a long, long time.  I didn't want to go and get him for the weekends.  I didn't want to have to argue with him over everything.  I was sick of being talked down to by him. I was sick of bowing down to his wishes for everything.

I continued to get him on weekends cause that is what a mother is supposed to do.  I continued to see him cause his is my son.  

His behavior and disrespect immediately prior to the fight was the last straw for me.  So I've decided that I do not have to be treated like that, even by my son.  I refuse to be treated like that by my son.   Even if he is my son.

So I've said a metaphorical good-bye to him and am trying to enjoy my life.  


  1. I'm so sorry Amy. I'm glad you can be honest about how you feel. That is an extremely brave thing to do. I hope you can find peace in that and comfort in knowing we are here to listen.

  2. hard...but you have to set boundaries...and if he can not respect them...sometimes we have to make hard hard
    for you, i know...hang in there...and do live a bit.

  3. Dear Amy, such hard words, such a tough decision for you. I agree with Andrea and Brian. Keep on keeping on. If you don't maintain boundaries, you would not be teaching your son how to respect them, your's or other's. That is what a good other does. You are showing tough love. Hopefully, he will see the error of his ways and come back to you. He has in the past. There is always hope. In the meantime, you will continue to take care of yourself and grow as a person too. Many blessings.


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